What to tell your future employer about the break-up? If you think it’s going to be an issue about being let go, ask that you both you and the Company agree to say it was mutual. (This can be easily placed in an Agreement as the “parties mutually agree”).  In work, particularly in bad economies, the way you are let go, whether mutual or not, has little bearing on finding your next position in the marketplace. How or why is irrelevant.  What matters most is how well you have come out of it and grown from the experience. 

It is always where you are now, not where you have been. Too often in work relationships, we are pushed into functioning one way because someone else needs it to be that way or certain behavior is something that works for the other side, and not for you. Look for new positions that fit what you have learned and who you have become. Take the opportunity of a new beginning seriously.

Never look back with regret. You’ve learned a great deal from your past employer and gained the wisdom and experience that will help you in your next chapter.

Once the employment relationship ends, it should become purely business: you can’t change what happened and give it any more energy. Looking backward will only take away from the effort to find a new direction and place.  You may come out of your employment situation better off than you were before.  Believe in yourself and get the best outcome. 

As always, the Employment Divorce^® and Employment Therapy^® are here to help and guide you through this process.  Contact Us.